Planning for Baby…while running a business
When I thought about getting pregnant, I (of course) had to think about my plans for Stinkerpants. I figured, “okay, once we get pregnant, I’ll have about 7-8 months to get a bunch of goals accomplished, and then once the baby is born I can take a step back and just maintain the business for awhile.”
Uh, yeah. That’s not what happened.
I didn’t anticipate that my life would change dramatically right away. I am sure this doesn’t happen for everyone, but heck–it sure happened for me. I found out I was pregnant, and literally two days later I started throwing up. By the next week, I was so exhausted that I could barely get off the couch. Even doing the laundry was both mentally and physically draining. Accomplishing my long list of goals for early 2010? Not going to happen! I’ve been in maintenance mode.
Now that I’m four five months (what is up with the way they calculate pregnancy months?!) into this pregnancy, my mind has cleared a little bit (although I did recently mail a letter to my mom and address it to myself–oops!) and the daily sickness seems to have gone the way of the exhaustion, thank heavens.
So now, with about 5 months until my due date, I’m finally thinking about my business and re-thinking my goals.
Part of this process involves thinking about maternity leave realistically. I’ve asked various people for advice on this and have been very unhappy with their responses, which have ranged from “plan?! You can’t HAVE a plan!” to “working at home with a baby is an impossibility until at least 7 months.” After hearing those responses, I was left feeling kind of powerless. After all, even though this seems like overkill to me, who am I to argue? What do I know? I’ve never had a kid.
Well, I’ll tell you what I do know, actually. I know that, at the end of the day, this is a baby. As Y said, it’s not like we’re battling wildfires every day. It’s definitely going to be hard, but seriously?! I can pick up my work for a few minutes and then drop it again when I have to take care of the baby–I don’t need 8 continuous hours of work, and I’m not doing brain surgery here. Furthermore, I know that I will have the help of my husband, in addition to both my parents and my in-laws.
I also know that this business isn’t a hobby for me, and I feel a great responsibility to my clients. And having my business sit idle for months on end isn’t good for the business, it isn’t good for me, and ultimately (because I’ll get cranky), it won’t be good for Little Stinker. The other thing? I can’t afford not to work for that long. But the real big kicker, the one that squashes all the negative advice, is this: I know that there are women who have done it, and I can be one of them.
This afternoon I was able to talk to a good friend of mine, who also happens to have a 7 month old baby. She made me feel a LOT better about what having a baby is all about, and actually reinforced some ideas I’d already had (mostly because my mom told me). For the first few months, the baby doesn’t need to be entertained that much. It’s mostly about figuring out how to get them to sleep, how to cope yourself, and letting your body heal. Once they get to be 5-7 months old, though, they start to need more attention. They want to be entertained. And that, my friends, is when I think working from home will be rough. But I’ll cross that bridge later. ;)
I also was very lucky to call on some inspirational and intelligent women from the wedding industry last week (thank you Michelle and Caroline!), who were very reassuring about my ability to keep running my business and take care of the baby. Because I’m not the only one who has gone through this or will go through this in the future, I figure I’ll post about my experience here on the blog every now and again. Maybe someone through Google will find my learning experiences helpful. :) And hey, I bet I’ll have a few funny experiences to share, too. ;)
In other news, I hope you are all well! Thank you again for your supportive comments on my last post. You guys are awesome!




























